You know what I’m talking about: the inauthentic try - where you “try,” but you’re really just using it as a pretext for staying the same, “proving” that it doesn’t work for you, and you’ve already predetermined the conclusion without any genuine interest in developing new nuance.
I see this in worldview and political discussions. You know that someone had no interest in expanding their perspective when, after gathering new insights, they walk away with the exact same conclusions as prior. I find it odd, in fact, when people proudly proclaim being a “lifelong fill-in-the-blank-here.” Lifelong? Oy. Try to grow.
I see this with kids “trying” food. Sometimes they “know” they don’t like it before ever tasting it. Sometimes they “know” they don’t like it after barely tasting it. Most things take time. Most things develop. Taste and desires don’t snap into being. They’re molded.
I see this with people in their healthy behaviors. There’s so much toe-dipping. There’s so much dogma. There’s so much inauthenticity. An honest try means living a different way than you have, thinking in a different manner than you have. Most people have never authentically tried. It’s evident: same tactics = same outcomes.
It’s real simple. Everyone plays the same games; so none of us buy your story. Genuinely try something new. Truly honestly experiment. Consider alternatives. Or save us all the speeches about how open-minded you are. Authentically try, or just keep thinking the same, feeling the same, acting the same, being the same, getting the same outcomes.