“I’m trying to get leaner.” - no.
“I’m a lean person in cut-down season.” - yes.
“I’ll do my best to finish X.” - no.
“I finish what I start.” - yes.
I’ve heard master orators talk about only ever answering the question they wanted to be asked. They ignore the noise altogether.
Conversely, I notice that persistently ineffective, impotent, and depressed people are so busy answering questions which they never wanted asked that their minds don’t have the opportunity to wrangle with solutions which would benefit themselves and mankind. Unproductive brain training.
It’s a skill to direct the mind and the emotions. Some people are really developed in the skill. And part of it has to do with realizing that the narrative you spin outwardly and inwardly has a profound impact on your state. Your state DICTATES your follow-through and agency.
Just try a week where you catch yourself every time you lament first world problems or victim-heroize yourself. And change the wording, honestly, not emptily or begrudgingly. I’m not talking about toxic positivity. I’m talking about being a non-whiny grownup adult. Two billion people walk 6-10 hours per day to find potable water. Please, check yourself. Productive brain training.
When you “hear” the criticisms of others, the questions they may not even be asking (but which you really didn’t want people to ask of you), instead speak in a grateful and powerful manner. Productive brain training.
Just answer the questions you hoped to be asked. And speak in a manner which counts on some beneficial outcome. Your state will place you in a better position to make those beneficial things come true.
I’m not talking woo woo magic. I’m not talking The Secret. I’m not talking Prayer of Jabez heresy. I’m talking pragmatic application. If you immerse your mind in a non-stop pool of “impossible,” it’s very simple and obvious that your spirit will drown. If you immerse your mind in a regular spirit of efficacy and genuine perspective, your spirit can thrive.
Train the brain productively.