“I’m trying to get leaner.” - no.
“I’m a lean person in cut down season.” - yes.
“I’ll do my best to finish X.” - no.
“I finish what I start.” - yes.
I’ve heard master orators talk about only ever answering the question you wanted to be asked. Nixon or Rumsfeld or Kissinger (maybe they all) said that you don’t bother “dodging” a question; you straight up answer the question you wanted to be asked. You ignore the noise altogether.
Now, I know these guys aren’t the best examples of how to live life or treat others. BUT, what I do notice is that persistently ineffective, impotent, and depressed people are so busy answering questions they never wanted asked that their minds don’t have the opportunity to wrangle with solutions which would benefit themselves and mankind.
It’s a skill to direct the mind and the emotions. Some people are really developed in the skill. Some who are developed in the skill are psychopaths, yes. Lol. But there are also really great people who build this skill. And part of it has to do with realizing that the narrative you spin outwardly and inwardly has a profound impact on your state. Your state DICTATES your follow-through and agency.
Just try a week where you catch yourself every time you lament first world problems or victim-heroize yourself. And change the wording, honestly, not emptily or begrudgingly. When you “hear” the criticisms of others, the questions they may not even be asking (but which you really didn’t want people to ask of you), instead speak in a grateful and powerful manner.
It won’t make you a snake politician. Just answer the questions you hoped to be asked. And speak in a manner which counts on some beneficial outcome. Your state will place you in a better position to make those beneficial things come true.
I’m not talking woo woo magic. I’m not talking The Secret. I’m not talking Prayer of Jabez heresy. I’m talking pragmatic application. If you immerse your mind in a non stop pool of “impossible,” it’s very simple and obvious that your spirit will drown.
Speak in manifestation.