“I Forgot to Worry About It”
- The words of one of my coaching clients recently, as we reviewed a stellar week in the face of a yearly challenge.
People have seasonal, weekly, or yearly behavioral habits. I’ve seen predictable to-the-day or even to-the-minute patterns of thought, words, or actions in people.
Weekends come. Holidays come. Tax season comes. The busy push at work arrives. And people follow a set of preprogrammed self-destruct as if they’re robots, not humans.
All along the way I’ve wondered how we “crack the code.”
As best I can tell, acknowledging the reality of stressors is critical. This client bucked the yearly trend by enlisting me in strategy coaching, sure. Moreover, she and I formulated a few different tactics to have in place in order to prevent the impending overwhelm.
She forgot to worry about it - “it” being the type of emotional trigger which usually drives people to just fall off completely.
When a fear is dismissed, ignored, and unexpressed, it is infinitely powerful. When you don’t speak out loud the defined possibilities, anything is “possible”. And the mind is more likely to flash about erratically, exploring nonsensical scenarios that’ll drive you crazy and over the edge.
But when you have the self-awareness to recognize your counterproductive behaviors and emotional states, not only do you place them into a tiny manageable box, you...
forget to even worry about them.